Okay, it ran all night and it ash dumped once and we are still good! I would still like to disable the ash dump, if possible.
after the vid I made, Blume said he thought I still had to much air, no satisfying this guy!

Just kiddin' Blume!
I did not turn the air back because it was running good. then I thought, wait a minute! we have proved for some reason, that this stove was running way too much exhaust all this time. it ran decent, but c'mon! dust and ashes piling up 2 or 3" in as many days?
anyway, I just this morning at 7am, dialed the air back even FURTHER. Exhaust: -5 Feed: +3.
the flame is a touch slower Blume, and hardly any tiny sparks flying around in there. you can sit there and stare at it for 5 minutes and maybe see 2 sparks in the stove. no where near as much when it drops pellets either. starting to enjoy tuning this thing!
another thing I find weird, but am happy about, is I am using way less pellets now. maybe because when the fire was too fast it burnt more fuel?
Bottom line, you all have created a tuning monster, and a post wh**e lol.